Loneliness

 In this era when people are most closely connected with others, many people still feel lonely. In fact, loneliness is not terrible.

1. Know that everyone feels lonely. This is a normal phenomenon, and it is not because of your own problems. People usually feel lonely when going through major life transitions, especially when they are turning for the better. If you are embarking on the path of exploring a new life, loneliness is destined to accompany you because you haven't found anyone who has the same goals as you.

2. Loneliness and aloneness are not the same thing. Loneliness is when you don't want to be alone. And alone you are willing to be alone. If you desire to be with others, then you are not alone. You can find people who can communicate with you and get close to you.

3. Join an online community. Sometimes this method works well. Share your thoughts and experiences, and communicate more with people who have similar experiences. Through online forums, we can help others while also helping ourselves.

Pay attention to safety when communicating online. Not everyone on the Internet is real. Lonely people are the easiest target for hunters.

Method

Overcome loneliness

1 Call people you know to get together. Even if you don't particularly want to be with them at this moment, contact with people will create opportunities for contact with more people. You can call your mother or even the waiter you know at the corner coffee shop.

Listen more and talk less. Listening makes it easier to deepen your relationship with others, and talking on your own will only make you bored.

Don't exhaust existing relationships. At this moment, they are your only circle of friends.

2 Participate in more activities. Join a sports league or a course. Go to the community to do volunteer activities. If you are shy, join an online or offline social anxiety group. Go to sites like Tongcheng.com and Ganji.com to find information about your community.

Don't make friends just to make friends. There is no purpose in contact with people, just for happiness. Participate in activities that you feel interested in, such as book clubs, church events, political events, concerts and art exhibitions, etc. On these occasions you will meet many people who have the same interests as you.

3 Challenge yourself and take the initiative to approach others. Don't always wait for others to approach yourself. Ask them if they want to have a cup of coffee and chat together. If you are interested in someone, you should actively show it instead of waiting passively for others to show it.

If you want to walk into another person's life, you must learn to be considerate and take care of others. Don't think you can make friends with another person as soon as you show up. Making friends is sometimes a long and arduous process, and most of the people you meet already have their own circle of friends and lives.

4 Get together with your family more. Even if you didn't get along well with your family members, they are likely to accept you again regardless of previous suspicions. You can also approach their circle of friends and life. Change the awkward situation.

5Never let yourself fall. Don't blindly sink into your loneliness, take the initiative to change your undesirable situation. Go out for a walk, ride a bicycle or quietly read a good book. The richer your life experience, the more you can talk. In this way, when communicating with people, you will make yourself look very knowledgeable and interesting.

Keep yourself busy. Loneliness always comes in when there is nothing to do. Devotion to work or school will make loneliness nowhere to hide.

6 Learn to get along with yourself. Many times we don't need someone to be with us, but we don't know how to get along with ourselves. Find a suitable time, why not take yourself out on a date? Go alone to have a delicious dinner and watch a wonderful movie. You may feel a little embarrassed at first, but don't stop there. Learning to get along with yourself is the fundamental guarantee for getting rid of loneliness.

Bring a book or diary with you when you go out. Sometimes we need to be alone, savor the true meaning of life, and observe the warmth and coldness of the world. Others will not think that you have no friends just because you are sitting alone. Everyone will have a time to be alone.

7 You can consider keeping a pet. If you are really struggling to want a partner, you can try to raise a puppy or kitten. Pets are good companions. Winning their trust and affection is a very enjoyable and very rewarding experience.

Be a responsible master. Sterilize pets. If you do not have the determination and preparation to take care of the animals' daily life, it is better not to keep pets.

8. Be a happy existence. People are always willing to be with happy people, so learn to be a happy person first. Praise more and criticize less. Don't make faults about other people's dress, hairstyle, or habits. You don't need to remind them that there is a stain on their shirts, thinking they might have known it just can't wash it off. But they would like to hear you say that the sweaters they wear are nice or that you read their latest article. Don't be overly flattering, it's enough to express your likes naturally. Praise is the best way to break ice. When people gradually realize that you are not a picky person, they will begin to trust you to like you.

9 If you don't exercise regularly, why not try to get a fitness card one by one. Take advantage of your own life and improve yourself.

Do you feel lonely sometimes? Or do you have any good suggestions for loneliness?